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Toddler Pattern Development

MEET anjali’s new friends, ABBY AND EMMA…

Do you notice something interesting about these two?  Or really, Abby, the one on the right?

She never changes her clothes.  Blue jeans and brown jacket, always.  Anjali won’t allow another outfit.   That’s “my Abby,” as she calls her.  Abby even finds her way into the bed.

Meanwhile, Emma can go through frequent wardrobe changes throughout the day.  Usually Anjali hands her over to Madhavi or I, saying, “Here ya go.”  She let’s us change Emma’s clothes, but won’t let us do much of anything with Abby.

This is a time when Anjali is developing an understanding of “mine,” and “me.”  She’s learning how to control her world–or that she can control her world–most often expressing herself verbally.  She is developing a keen awareness of patterns and groupings.

This lining-up-the-blocks photo below is a perfect example.

Here too, she is very protective of her organizations and creations.  If I try to add anything on she barks an emotional “Noooo!  Stop.  Stop papa, stop!”

As with Abby and Emma, Anjali has reign over the blue blocks, while mama and me are relegated to the rest.  We can do what we want with those.

Anjali is also recognizing many of the letters.  What I think is even cooler is she carefully points to and counts the blocks in her “big block tower,” as she calls them.  She surprised me when she counted to 14 fairly accurately.

So What If Your Baby Can’t Walk Yet. What’s The Rush?

The other day, an acquaintance of mine expressed a little concern that his 16 month old baby isn’t walking yet.  Perhaps something he and/or his wife are doing or providing their little girl with is holding her back, like overusing a walker, which some studies show can delay the proper use of leg muscles.  Or perhaps, there is no delay at all.  Their daughter will walk when she is ready, and eventually, the worry over when she will walk will be a blip in the memory machine.

Anjali will be one year old in just a few days.  The other day, as I was holding her in my arms, soothing her sleepy little body, I reflected on how much she has grown, and how quickly all of the stages of development come and go.  There were several along the way that Madhavi and I took the time to appreciate and remember.  Here are just a few of the many:

  • Her pigeon coos when she was only a few weeks old.
  • Her rigid, but super-cute arm movements, and the startle-response around the same time.
  • Her little waggly but when she would crawl.
  • Her little snort-snuff, scrunched-up-nose-face she would make.

I find many people, myself included sometimes, eagerly waiting for certain new developments–walking, sleeping on their own, drinking from a cup on their own, talking, etc–rather than simply enjoying each precious moment, especially the ones that will come and go.

As I stood there, rocking gently, singing to Anjali, I really tried to feel this warm, little, lovable creature holding on to me.  I took in the position of her head, where her hands were holding me, the sweet baby scent and her soft breathing.  I thought of a time in the future when she won’t want or need to be in my arms, or will be too big to be there.  Hopefully, when that time comes, I can look back and remember that I did cherish these kinds of moments, even if I also wished for a time when I could simply tell Anjali, “It’s nap time,” and she would climb into her bed and go to sleep by herself.

But what’s the rush?  Like I said, my friend’s daughter will walk in her own time.  Anjali will self-soothe in her own time.  Everyone tells me, “They grow up before you know it.”  So, I plan, at least, on pausing from time to time to really enjoy who Anjali is in the moment, rather than thinking too much of what will come.

Does Baby Led Weaning Foster Earlier Independence? Radha’s Theory

I was thinking today about something my friend Radha said to me a little while back.  He was theorizing that baby led weaning (which we are doing with Anjali and he and his wife Sheila are doing with Uma) really fosters more independence in babies.

The idea is that you are letting your baby eat on their own.  They explore food when they are ready.  They develop eating skills as other skills develop (ie, when they can use a pincer grasp, they can eat smaller foods, like peas, and not choke).  You are generally not spoon-feeding them mashed foods (we do tend to spoon or finger feed oatmeal to Anjali in the mornings), and they are getting a sense of whole and individual foods, rather than a puree combination that may be unrecognizable as the original food.

Radha’s theory is that eating independence extends into other aspects of their lives.  In other words, because you are giving them independence to eat on their own, they are likely to be more exploratory, more willing to try things on their own and perhaps faster to develop new skills.

I think there is something to this notion.  But I only have the direct experience with Anjali, Uma and a few others, so what do I really know.  I do see them all thriving so much.  I’m curious what others think of this idea, or any related experiences you have had.