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Toddler Pattern Development

MEET anjali’s new friends, ABBY AND EMMA…

Do you notice something interesting about these two?  Or really, Abby, the one on the right?

She never changes her clothes.  Blue jeans and brown jacket, always.  Anjali won’t allow another outfit.   That’s “my Abby,” as she calls her.  Abby even finds her way into the bed.

Meanwhile, Emma can go through frequent wardrobe changes throughout the day.  Usually Anjali hands her over to Madhavi or I, saying, “Here ya go.”  She let’s us change Emma’s clothes, but won’t let us do much of anything with Abby.

This is a time when Anjali is developing an understanding of “mine,” and “me.”  She’s learning how to control her world–or that she can control her world–most often expressing herself verbally.  She is developing a keen awareness of patterns and groupings.

This lining-up-the-blocks photo below is a perfect example.

Here too, she is very protective of her organizations and creations.  If I try to add anything on she barks an emotional “Noooo!  Stop.  Stop papa, stop!”

As with Abby and Emma, Anjali has reign over the blue blocks, while mama and me are relegated to the rest.  We can do what we want with those.

Anjali is also recognizing many of the letters.  What I think is even cooler is she carefully points to and counts the blocks in her “big block tower,” as she calls them.  She surprised me when she counted to 14 fairly accurately.

Time Saving Tips For Food Prep

I just chopped a pound and a half of shiitake mushrooms for the week.  That’s just one of the things I prepared in advance.

I am a bit of a loser, yes.

But if you read on you will pick up some tips to save you precious minutes–even hours–of otherwise wasted time (that is, unless you love spending time chopping vegetables, recreating lists unnecessarily and wasting time at the market, in which case you might want to come back to my blog for the next post).

As I have mentioned in other posts, we are constantly trying to do things around this house more efficiently…Everything from paying bills to food prep.  For example, I set it up so I have almost all of my bills due within 2 or 3 days of each other, so I only have to sit down once a month to pay them all (there’s a tip for you before I got to my official list :) )

Maybe some of the stuff seems anal, or at least overly organized.

The purpose, however, is to free up time, the most valuable thing any of us have.

I would much rather have more time to really be with Anjali than to waste it paying bills.  I cherish an extra 15-30 minutes I may get each day to write or practice music rather than having to repeat boring tasks in the kitchen.  And if Madhavi and I plan to reach financial goals in order to free up more time, every minute counts, and I don’t want to waste time recreating the wheel when it comes to meal planning, shopping lists and food prep.

The other thing is that we don’t want to sacrifice the quality of our food or meals for the sake of saving time.  We eat very little processed food anymore…No more prepared, frozen dinners, canned soups, cereal, etc.

Okay, now that I have justified myself (thus proving that I do feel a little lame being so practicalorganized and effective), here are some tips for you in no particular order.

  • Create a master shopping list.  This list should include the staple items for your household–anything you use every week.  An example: we make green smoothies every morning, so bananas, pineapple and greens are items on our master list.  You print out a copy of the master list, cross off anything you don’t need and add items you do need that week.  Prior to doing this I was wasting time and mental energy going through the cabinets trying to re-create what was already a given.  If you want to get ultra-geeky, like me, you can divide your list by sections of the grocery store.  I put all produce on one side of the paper, and all other items on the other.
  • Plan your meals for the week.  This is tried and true.  The idea here is to batch the task of figuring out what you will eat every day, rather than spending time and energy staring at the fridge saying, “what should we eat?”  This will also save you time at the grocery store.  I probably used to spend at least a half hour more at the store because I was just buying and trying to figure out what I would use them for on the fly.
  • Chop what you can for the entire week. As I mentioned earlier, I chopped a bunch of mushrooms.  We make miso soupevery day (also a time saver, I know exactly what I am eating for lunch and don’t have to waste time figuring that out everyday.  Plus, it’s super yummy!).  I realized that I save time if I chop them all in advance for the week.  This is another batching thing.  Of course, there are certain things that won’t work out so well.  If I washed all the mushrooms in advance, they would start to go bad sooner.  Consider chopping celery or onion in advance and freezing it to quickly add to soups (as long as it isn’t left in the freezer for too long).  Chop all of your greens for the week (we use a lot of greens, so this saves us a ton of time).  My mom used to chop ginger and garlic and put it in little foil packets in the freezer to quickly grab when preparing meals.
  • Keep a folder or binder with your favorite and/or most used recipes. I am getting really tired of sifting through a dozen cook books to figure out what we are going to eat that week.  The fact is, we really use 2-3 of them the most.  We copied the recipes we liked out of the others and kicked those space-wasters to the curb (we live in a row home in Philly…we’re also constantly improving the use of our space :) ).  After some trial and error we will find a good balance of meals we like a lot that don’t take a tone of time to prepare.  Those meals go into the binder, thus making my meal planning less draining and time-wasting.
  • Slow Cooker Meals.  My new thing is doing one slow cooker meal a week.  It is so easy to just chop a bunch of things (or even easier if they are chopped in advance!), throw them in the cooker and walk away for 6 hours.  Plus, the house smells awesome.
  • Same breakfast, same lunch. I kinda mentioned this already.  But at the risk of sounding boring, we eat the same breakfast every morning, and the same lunch, more or less, every afternoon.  Oatmeal and green juice in the morning (used to be that plus eggs, but we’re moving toward being vegan), miso soup and salad for lunch (we might add something else in for lunch, like a leftover dinner or beans and rice…But something easy to reheat).  The point is, I don’t have to think at all to prepare these meals.  This saves and energy.  It also helps perfect the things I make for those meals.  Our miso soup is so ridiculously good at this point.
  • Shop at odd times. I hate when we’re low on food and I have to go shopping on a Saturday or Sunday afternoon.  I cannot freakin’ stand bumping into other people’s carts, or waiting for people to move out of my way so I can reach some cucumbers.  And parking lots totally suck at peak hours (it takes me almost as long to park as it does for me to drive to the store!).  That is why I like to shop (okay, this is going to really qualify me as a loser) on a Saturday or Sunday night, like around 9pm.  Most of the time I go with Anjali on a Monday or Tuesday mid-morning, which is also a fair time to shop–not too crowded.  By the way, when I was single, I used to go shopping at this 24 hour Pathmark at 2 or 3 in the morning, after a regular gig I had.  I had that place completely to myself; it was kinda creepy.

I have a lot of other seemingly odd-ball time-saving tricks.  I’ll fill you in on some others later.  I wonder if any of you have some helpful or even strange tips for maximizing quality time.

Thanks for indulging me!

Mid-Week Music: Anjali Sings To Us

Anjali has been singing so much lately.  She loves to sing and she loves when we sing.

She’ll say, “Mama, sing All My Friends Are Different,” from Yo Gabba Gabba.

It is absolutely precious, so I wanted to share with you.  In this video you’ll get to hear Twinkle, Twinkle.

(I give you the unedited versions because I love that she immediately wants to see herself on the camera as soon as I get it out.  It makes shooting video of her quite challenging!  The song comes in around 1.10.)

How To Teach Your Kid How To Read

That’s a trick title.

At least, I’m discovering (read: HAVING MY MIND BLOWN!) that given the right trust and “tools,” our kids can learn to read on their own, or likely with far fewer than 30 hours of “help” from us.

The guy that’s blowing my mind

John Holt is a writer, educator, lecturer and amateur musician who wrote 10 insightful (to me, ground-breaking) books about children and early learning.

In Holt’s view, learning is not the result of teaching, but rather a constant and universal human activity.

The part that’s blowing my mind right now

Okay, so here is something I just read that has me on one hand like, ‘This is so amazingly refreshing and new to me,’ and on the other hand like, ‘This completely rings true to me to my core.’

Holt makes the analogy, in his book Learning All The Time, that learning to read is, like learning to speak, and “extraordinary intellectual feat we all accomplish before the adults got it into their heads that they could “teach” us.

Parents don’t teach kids to read anymore than parents teach kids to speak.

We don’t teach our children how to speak.  They learn by constant exposure.

I notice this time and time again with Anjali.  She is constantly saying things I never “taught” her.  They are rather things she picks up that Madhavi or I say in everyday conversation.  In fact, many times she is less interested in the things I try to teach.

Holt agrees.  He says,

Children get ready to speak by hearing speech all around them.  The important thing about that speech is that the adults, for the most part, are not talking in order to give children a model.  They are talking to each other because they have things to say.

So the first thing the baby intuits, figures out, about the speech of adults, is that it is serious…well worth doing.

SO TRUE!  This is not only true with speech, but just about everything!   Anjali wants the real tools more than her toy ones.  She want the Mamas lotion more than her own.  She wants to eat off of our big plates rather than her own.  She wants to drink out of a glass more than her sippy cup.

what children need to get ready for reading

So how do we (how does Holt) apply this to reading?

Simple.

Children need exposure to a lot of PRINT.  Not pictures, but print.

(okay, I too am freaking out a little (again!) as I type that because we have been surrounding Anjali with lots of both pictures and print.  But let’s not beat ourselves up.  At 22 months I am not pushing or expecting her to start reading now.  But this is definitely food for thought)

Holt says that children need to “bathe their eyes in print, as when smaller they bathe their ears in talk.”  As they see print more and more, these meaningless shapes, lines and squiggles take form.  They become recognizable (like when Anjali recognizes the letter “O” or “I”!).

After a while, and without really knowing what letters or words are, they begin to see some patterns–that this letter appears here, and that bunch of letters shows up there.   When they have learned to really see letters and words, then they can start asking questions about what they say and what they mean.  But not before.

reading tools for our kids

Holt suggests (and I am apt to agree) that our children are visually exposed, in school and out, in the pre-reading years and after, all kinds of written stuff from the adult world.  He suggests, for example, that a great “reading readiness material” is a large print version of the New York Times.  The print is large enough, and the paper is attractive because it is part of the “adult world.”

Other reading materials to have handy from the “adult world” are maps, ticket stubs, copies of bank statements, instruction manuals, pamphlets, flyers, old phone books, etc.

Perhaps we shouldn’t be showing only videos or photos on our computers and I-Pads.  We should be letting our children see e-zines, emails, e-newsletters and blogs.

finally…

I must say this sounds good to me.  A hands off approach.

But don’t get me wrong.  I am all to eager to watch Anjali grow and learn and explore and wonder.  Holt’s Book(and I think I’ll have to get my hands on more of his books) rings true to me, especially since we greatly consider homeschooling…

Or perhaps it’s unschooling.

What I loved about John Holt right away, was that on page 2 he talks about trust, security and comfort being at the foundation of a child’s learning.  If there is anything Madhavi and I have been foster in Anjali from the beginning, it is trust, security and unconditional love.

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Mid-Week Music: ‘Sir Duke’ Will Get Any Kid Shakin’

How did I not play Stevie Wonder for Anjali before?  Is that possible?  I really don’t think I had up until a few days ago.

I thought for sure that she would immediately freak out over Sir Duke.  In fact, she passed.  I went to the next song on my playlist, I Wish.  Yep, that did it.  Whodoesn’t want to move to that song?

After that we listened to As.  But she wanted to go back (she is SUPER-into listening to the same songs over an over again…and I don’t blame her because that’s how you really get inside a song or a book or a film).

I accidentally skipped back to the beginning, Sir Duke, and from there she was hooked on that song.  Dancing.  Singing.  Laughing.  It even worked for me to sing it to her a night or two later when she was having trouble sleeping.

And by the way, she says “Yeah, yeah” in the right place, if you know where I mean.

Check out this stellar live-in-the-studio performance by Stevie:

…And here is a SUPER-COOL rendition by my friend Caleb Hawley, who I played with recently.  He’s a really talented songwriter and guitarist with a fantastic voice…And a really nice guy.

Stay At Home Parents

That title, of course, is a misnomer.

Neither I, nor Anjali or Madhavi, stay home all day, unless of course we’re completely snowed in. Even then we’re likely to go out and jump around in the snow.

But that’s not the point of this post.

The point of this post comes at the end. But to make my point I realize I have to tell you that I am no longer the only “stay at home parent” in our house. Madhavi has actually been working from home part-time since March.  Her choice to leave her full-time work came after Anjali was born. It was only a bit more than a year later that she left her job entirely without a net.

As they say, “leap and the net will appear.”

It did. Although our income took a big hit, Madhavi now works half-happily at home using many of the skills from her years of training in Neurology and medicine. I say half-happily because while she fulfills a dream of hers–to work from home–and she has much more time with Anjali (and me incidentally :) ), she hasn’t reached her goal yet. That goal is to work for herself 100%.  I, of course, work for myself already.  But I join her in the goal of running our own business.

Both of us working from home (beside the fact that I also work “in the field” when I have gigs) allows us to focus on Anjali, and for her to focus on us. It also gives us time to work on developing our businesses that will one day soon free Madhavi from working for anyone else.

The balance is tricky…Work…Child…Starting a business.  The freedom of working at home can also be our demise. We have learned much (the hard way) about time management.

While the goal for us is freedom from alarm clocks, location independence and reduction of “work” hours, now is certainly not the time to sleep late, spend a ton of money traveling or blowing off working or tackling a daily checklist.

On the other hand, that our lives now revolve around home, so to speak, means that not a day passes that we don’t each enjoy time with Anjali and time with each other.

For example, today, like most days, we ate breakfast together.  Then Madhavi and Anjali went to Mommy And Me Yoga (hilariously, neither of them got to do much yoga, but that’s a post for another time).  In that time I was able to get some work done.  Then we ate lunch together.   Madhavi went to our office to work, Anjali took a nap and I got some more things done.  When Anjali woke up, she and I went to the bank, to the park and to the library (three places she thoroughly enjoys…the library the most…she tells me “I sad, library closed” when it’s time to close…super cute).  Shortly after we got  back Madhavi finished work.  We ate dinner, Anjali watched a Spot DVD.  Then bath time and bed for her and Mama.

The point is, we’re trying to strike a balance between living now and getting where we want to be.  It’s always a struggle to set aside certain fun activities, parties or splurges because it means more time or more funds to support our bigger picture goals.  And yet, as lame as it might be to quote Ferris Bueller, “Life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.”


How To Get Rid Of Fleas Naturally

Diatomaceous Earth - A natural powder that kills fleas


We had fleas.  I think it was my fault.

Well, it was partially my fault.  I brought them home post- painting and cleaning after our tenants moved from of the apartment we rent out.

I curse them in ways I definitely wouldn’t want Anjali to hear.  I know they knew they had fleas.  I found little strips sticky flea paper taped to different places in the apartment.  Why couldn’t they just tell me?  I would have bombed that place right away (which is what I ended up doing once I figured it out).

But as it is, I must have brought fleas home, at which point they attached themselves to our cat, and/or nested in our basement.  They attacked me for a while.  Once they were done with my meatless bones they moved onto Madhavi.

Bombing the apartment where no one was living was one thing.  I certainly didn’t want to bomb our entire house.  That would be a huge undertaking–covering and sealing off items that might get damaged from the fogger chemicals, getting rid of food and sequestering our family, including Fuzzy our cat.

We did end up bombing our basement, but the rest was done naturally.  I’ll tell you how to get rid of fleas, step by step.

1. Buy a flea fogger.

Okay, so this is the part that involves the toxic stuff.  If you are fogging, there is no way around noxious chemicals that can be harmful to your (and your children’s) health if inhaled or ingested.

However, you are only bombing the basement and you are sealing off the door or any large openings to the rest of your house.

Buy Raid Flea Fogger or Hot Shot Bedbug and Flea Fogger. Both will work fine.  You really only need 1 or 2 cans per fogging, though you can buy them as a 3 or 6 pack.  One can of Raid covers 600-700 Sq. Ft.  That was enough to work in our basement.  But as you may repeat this process another time, you can go for the 3 or 6 pack.

Don’t pull the trigger yet!

2. Buy Diotomaceous Earth.

“What is that,” you are likely asking?  Diatomaceous Earthis a naturally occurring substance formed from the shells of a type of algae. The algae’s silicon shells fall off when they die and fossilize in the earth. Grinding what’s left into a powder consistency produces a chemical-free alternative for flea control.  This powder kills fleas by drying them out.

Perma-Guard: food-grade diatomaceous earth


I suggest getting the food-grade kind, like the one made by Nature’s Wisdom or Perma-Guard.  This is because you are going to be laying this stuff all over your house, or at least in the areas you think the fleas are.  Any leftover traces could be swallowed by a child or pet.  You could eat the food-grade Diatomaceous Earth and you would be fine.

Admittedly, Diatomaceous Earth is a bit pricey.  Alternatively, you can use Borax, the old laundry detergent.  But you would be laying chemicals all over your floors, carpet and upholstery.  I don’t recommend it.  Plus, Borax is not as effective as Diatomaceous Earth.

You can also put this stuff on your pets, and I recommend you do.  We put it on our cat.

3. Plan to be out of the house for 5-6 hours, and keep your pets safe.

To play it safe, because you are fogging your basement, you should stay out of the house for 5-6 hours.  We made sure our cat’s litter box was out of the basement.  We sealed off the basement door entirely with plastic and tape.

4. Strip the beds and wash all clothing, towels and bedding.

Fleas like dark, warm, fuzzy places.  Wash everything you can in a hot cycle.

5. Spread generous amounts of Diatomaceous Earth on the floors and upholstery which may be infested with fleas or flea eggs.

Don’t be skimpy.  You need to lay it on thick.  We put it on all floors in our house.  We also put it on certain furniture which we thought was compromised.  For example, we were getting most of our flea bites near our sofa on the first floor, and in our bedroom.

We stripped our beds and put Diatomaceous Earth on the mattresses (we don’t have box springs, but if you do I suggest putting it in between the mattress and box spring).  We put the stuff on our sofa, and made sure it got into any crevices.

Use a broom to get the powder into the cracks of the floor boards.  This is especially important on the first floor.

Here’s the scoop: Many flea infestations centralize in the basement because those fleas love dark, damp places. So when fog the basement the fleas are going to try to escape through the ceiling of the basement and through the floor boards.  But it’s a trap because you will have put down enough Diatomaceous Earth to dry them all out.

6. Fog the basement and get out for 5-6 hours.

Remember to seal the door and keep your pet as far away as possible, if not out of the house altogether.

7. Vacuum like mad.

Okay, this part really sucks.  That powder is dense.  It took me several hours to get it all up.  It was especially a lot of work to get it out of few carpets we have.  I recommend first sweeping it into piles, put them in a dust pan and throw them out.  Then vacuum.

Don’t forget to trash your vacuum bag!

8. Follow Up.

Some people recommend doing this entire process again in about 10 days.  The theory is that the fogger and Diatomaceous Earth do not kill the eggs.  So, you need a do-over when the eggs hatch.

After my marathon vacuuming session, I decided it would be just as effective to vacuum daily for the next couple of weeks, and be especially vigilant in the places where we were getting bitten the most.

We used the Diatomaceous Earth once more, only on our first floor and sofa.  Otherwise, we just vigilantly vacuumed and changed our bed sheets a bit more frequently.

The fleas are gone!

Parent Directed Vs. Child Led Discovery

I am constantly at odds with myself about my approach toward various daily activities Anjali does, or activities I do with her.  I go back and forth between being a “teacher” or being a “facilitator.”

In theory, Madhavi and I both lean toward being facilitators rather than teachers.  We want Anjali to discover things for herself, with us acting more as guides and  providing a safe environment for her to do so.

I think a great environment for children to learn in is one in which parents provide a safe environment and then step out of the way, even if we have to watch our children make a mess, fall or do things “wrong” a handful of times.

It can be a challenge to get out of the way and let Anjali do what she wants to do to discover things for herself.  It is hard in a world wrought with rules, where we know the “proper” way to do things, to let go and let her explore possibilities.  It can be irritating to watch Anjali make a complete mess that I have to clean up.

It is fascinating watching Anjali stand on a step stool at the kitchen sink and learn to manipulate water, or learn cause and effect (If I pour this here, it fills up there, etc.).  It is also tough to stand back and let her spill the water all over the floor.

It can be frustrating when Anjali wants to wear her jacket when it’s 85 degrees and humid outside.  But I figure she will realize she is hot and sweaty as a result, and learn the cause and effect of her action.  And she will learn more directly that way, rather than me explaining the consequence.

I think Anjali learned to handle a glass of water early on because we were willing to nervously let her try.  We just made sure to provide a glass that was durable.

Sometimes, of course, it is hard to let go.  It is hard to step out of our parent directed teaching to let our children learn by their own discovery.

Here is an example…

Dinner Time

Here is a typical dinner as of late.

Madhavi and I are sitting at the table, or sometimes on a blanket on the floor, eating dinner.  Anjali seems relatively uninterested in eating.  We have long since stopped putting her in a high-chair.  She usually stands on a chair at the table instead.  She starts at one chair and quickly makes her rounds to Madhavi’s lap, then another chair and then my lap.  Occasionally she picks at her plate or our plates, or allows us to offer her a morsel of food.

I am beginning to wonder if our vaguely designated time for dinner is an imposition on Anjali’s disinterest in scheduled, or even semi-scheduled, events.

Should Anjali be expected to eat just because we have decided it is dinner time?

In theory, we believe she should not be.  We figure she eats when she is hungry.  It’s fine if she doesn’t want to eat now.

Again, that’s the theory.  The problem is that if she doesn’t eat now, or right after her bath, before bed (which I call “second dinner,” and is a typical occurrence), then she goes to bed hungry.  Who suffers then?  Both Madhavi and Anjali.  Anjali ends up hungry in the night, so she wakes more.  And guess what?  She nurses much more, keeping Madhavi from sleeping well too.

Take two

Some nights we keep telling Anjali she has to eat.  I am not sure she understands the consequences yet.  But there are nights when we do the very thing I hate doing–the thing I have seen other parents do that I don’t really want to do: we end up pushing the food on her, or saying things like, “you need to eat.”

I don’t think meals should be forced on children.  I just don’t want Madhavi to lose sleep because we have a constantly nursing toddler in the night.  Can you see the dilemma?  This is one we are back and forth on.

As She Grows She Knows

I tell myself to trust that, within reason, Anjali knows what she needs.  She knows if she is hungry.  She knows if she is hot or cold.  She knows if she is tired…Most of the time.  There are plenty of times she is tired but doesn’t want to go to sleep.  There are times when we know she’s hot, and she’s obviously uncomfortable, but she doesn’t realize all she has to do is take her jacket off.  There are also times when she may be uncomfortably hungry, but turns to nursing because it is comforting and nourishing.

What I have faith in is that Anjali will figure it out in time.  As she sees her actions have certain results, Anjali takes note eventually.  As she is better able to communicate verbally, the better we can directly understand what she wants and needs.

Rather than create rules, stick to schedules or deal out time-outs (or whatever the common toddler-punishment is these days), I would rather give Anjali an encouraging and safe environment where she can discover on her own, even if it means I have to work a little harder or alternatively step aside altogether.

Seeing her achieve on her own, even with a few bumps and bruises, is totally worth it.  And she seems to give back love over and over again in so many ways.

Facing A Creative Road Block

Sacrifice and change are two words that are synonymous with parenting.  I strongly believe in order to parent well–in order to really be present for your kids–you have to become a different person than you once were, and you have to sacrifice.

I don’t mean you need to be different at the core, or that you need to deny yourself of who you really are.  I mean that your time gets unevenly divided, weighing much heavier on time with your children, than personal time.  That is, if you want to be a direct part of your child’s life, then you must minimize the amount of time you defer to family, friends, nannies, day care or baby sitters.

So what I am grappling with lately is how loving and being with Anjali affects my creativity.

On the one hand, Anjali is a direct result of my creativity.  She is the being that Madhavi and I lovingly created and continue to shape daily, as well she recreates us and continues to shape us!

The flip side and reality is that my musical creativity is suffering.  When Anjali is napping, or anytime I have free time, I turn to my creative space and find that my musical libido is a bit tired.  Let’s face it, all of me is tired.  Being a parent is exhausting!

I am not completely dried up.  I am performing regularly.  I just haven’t written a new song in a long time.  Perhaps I’m just out of practice, or maybe it’s because my relationship with the world is so different now that I don’t know how to express myself through song like I used to.

All I know is that Dave, my bandmate and friend, once called me a musical gremlin.  Remember the movie Gremlins?  Pour some water on them and a dozen more gremlins are spontaneously created.  Well, Dave would say that great songs popped off of me just like gremlins.  I can tell you that Anjali spilled water on me at least a few times just today, and I still have no new songs.

Admittedly, the “free” time that I have been afforded in the last nine months has been put toward creating other income via a new business.  Certainly, that has devoured my energy.  I mean, it’s hard to feel inspired to write a song after spending a few hours building a website, creating a digital product or generally doing everything I can to get a business off the ground.

I guess I shouldn’t be so hard on myself.  After all, they’re just songs.  On the other hand, the songs that I have written over the years feel like extensions of myself.  I breathed life into them because I truly felt something.  So that makes me think: ‘My god, WHY DON’T I FEEL SOMETHING?!’  I feel lots of things throughout my day.  Isn’t something going to inspire me to plunk something out on the piano or guitar, sing a melody and put some lyrics to it?

I turn back to a book called The War of Art: Break Through the Blocks and Win Your Inner Creative Battles.

In this book, Steven Pressfield, author of The Legend Of Bagger Vance, talks about doing the work you are meant to do.  He urges you to treat your art like work.  You have to go to work everyday and just do it.  One day you may eek out a bunch of crap, and another you may tap into the muse and genius flows.

Either way, you do your work and that is how your overall body of work or art is created, not by sitting on your ass waiting for inspiration to strike.

I know this to be true.  I remember a great time in my life when I was writing every day.  Granted, I was not a parent and I was single.  I had this Mitsubishi Eclipse I bought from a friend for $250.  It had no radio, no CD player and no tape player.  I didn’t crowd my mind listening to music or “news.”  Instead, I wrote music.

I had a tape recorder  (this is just before digital recorders were a mainstay).  I would sing melodies and lyrics into that thing, sometimes developing whole songs on a long car ride.  Other times I would take the ideas home and finish the songs at a keyboard, or record them on an 8 track recorder (this is also before I had my computer studio set up).  I still have those tapes.  Every once in a while I will find one and listen to it, half embarrassed by how rough the ideas were, and half amazed at how inspired I obviously was.

I don’t think I need to get rid of my I-Pod or car stereo.  I don’t think Madhavi would appreciate it either, since we share a car.  Anjali would definitely hate that, as she loves to listen to songs over and over again in the car.  I do think, however, that it’s time to get back to work.  It’s time to stop blogging now, and hum, sing, tap, play piano…Whatever it takes to buzz myself back into writing rather than just playing music.

I may end up writing about going on the swings or excitedly seeing airplanes in the sky.  At least I’ll be writing.  I think if I allow myself to start there, I will eventually tap into my muse.

Anjali’s Musical Tastes

At a little over a year and a half old, Anjali is expressing herself verbally more and more.  In the last two months she has had a language explosion.  It’s been really amazing and quite cute, since she says “sentences” like “Papa Fuzzy bath” (when we gave our cat a bath), or “Oh car, CD, beach,” because she’s excited to go in the car and listen to “Let Me Take You To The Beach,” by Frank Zappa.

That leads me to the point of this post.

Anjali’s musical tastes are ever-expanding and changing.  What I love (and sometimes hate) is that she latches onto a song and wants to hear it over and over again.  She gets such enjoyment from it, and it kind of reminds me of me (and Madhavi).  We like to really listen to something we like and suck everything out of it that we can.  I do this with books and movies as well.  The more I watch, read or listen, the more nuances I get out of it.  I like to think Anjali is doing this too.  She is exploding with language these days, so I imagine she is learning new words excitedly.

So what does she like to listen to over and over again?

  • Chege Meu Povo – Nacao Estrella Brillante: She loves to dance to this.  She bubbles over with joy and excitement when she hears it, and immediately starts dancing.  For a few weeks there when she said, “Dance,” I knew she meant put this song on over and over.
  • Let Me Take You To The Beach – Frank Zappa: We have been listening to this one since the very early days with Anjali.  But it has resurfaced with a force.  This has become the recent “car” song, as I mentioned at the beginning of this post.  We just hit the repeat button and she is happy.
  • Simple – Jeremy Dyen: What can I say?  My daughter has good taste!  For a while she wanted to hear the first song off of my Battery CD, called “Not More Than She.”  Then she latched onto “Simple,” which she now asks for by name.  This sort of alternates with “Beach” in the car.  I think she loves these two songs of mine because I played them on guitar for her a lot while I was rehearsing for my CD release party last April.


Ice Cream – Asheba: This is from the Putamayo Picnic Playground.  She laughs when this comes on and it’s the cutest.  Other favorites from this awesome CD (our new favorite!) are “Mes Parents Sont Bio” by Pascal Parisot and “Pomadoro” by Bomba.

    Espresso 2222: Gilberto Gil: All three of us love this one in the last few days.  I knew this song because I play it in Alo Brasil, my Brazilian band.  This version is so perfect, and it’s from another Putamayo compilation called Brazilian Playground.
Other music she really enjoys is:
  • Music from Capoeira Angola (Brazilian martial art).
  • Itsy Bitsy Spider, which she says, “Itsy Sabah!”
  • “Hey Ya,” by Outcast.  She loves to watch the video on You Tube.
  • Old MacDonald Had A Farm.
  • “Alphabet Lost And Found,” by They Might Be Giants.
  • “There’s A Party In My Tummy,” from Yo Gabba Gabba.